Do you feel like something is missing? Do you feel empty, disconnected, or detached? Do you feel chronically disappointed or rejected, and that you cannot rely on other people? Do you feel the need to demand love, or material things from someone?
If yes, your Emotional Deprivation Schema has been triggered.
You had circumstances in your youth that made you particularly sensitive to signs of emotional neglect. Do not forget that you are loved and adored. You can have what you want but only if you gain the courage to ask for it.
Surrender: Are you distorting the view of your situation to confirm that you will never have your emotional needs met?
Escape: Are you distracting yourself to avoid feeling that you are unloved and that nobody listens to or cares for you?
Counterattack: Are you demanding to have needs (or superficial wants) met? Do you believe your are entitled to a "Yes"?
Ground yourself. Feel your feet on the floor. Breathe. You are loved.
right now you're triggered by your lifetrap. you are probably feeling rejection, shame, anger, and confusion. these feelings are lies. you have many positive qualities. you are generous, brave, social, and smart. many people love you for who you are. back yourself and say what you want to say with your whole chest.
My opinion matters. I have the right to say no to something that doesn't feel right. I can live with the guilt of hurt feelings if it means I am true and honest with myself. People will respect me when I state my opinions entirely and without shame.
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